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Thursday, October 29, 2009

Official WhipGirl NEWZ Helloween Edition Oct 2009

Official WHIPGIRL Newsletter(c), Oct 2009 Helloween Edition

Newsletters may be copied and passed on in full format. Thank you.

Greetings all!

Lots of Great goings on here 'Southern Style' at The House from now until the end of the year, so plan ahead!

First some news...

1) My 'Dungeon Couture By WhipGirl' Dungeon Furniture line is in the making. My first piece is 'The Throne': a bondage and worship throne with removable/adjustable seat for more serious worship, storage areas, and an overall custom majestic motif suited to the Owner's particular style and needs. The prototype piece being built for My space is being assembled in My Dungeon this week. Pictures of it will go up everywhere including My seperate Dungeon Furniture website as soon as the finishing touches are complete. I will share that website url when it is complete and ready for your perusal. This and other pieces in the making are all designed by Me and custom built by My carpenter slave.
They will be available for ordering (pick up and national delivery) so you can own a custom piece of equipment for your personal playspace designed by a Mistress, for serious players. Stay tuned for the photo announcements.

2) Happy Helloween! I hope each and everyone one of you are planning something ghoulish and deviant. The House won't be doing a party this year, but there are other events coming. Sessions will be available as usual. I will also be doing a new photo shoot the day after Hell's Eve with esteemed photographer Bill Lester of NEPA www.myspace.com/billlesterphotography so be ready for some great new photos of yours truly for your adoration.

3) NOVEMBER EVENTS:
SATURDAY November 14th: 'Dinner and Discussion at The House.' The evening's topic: 'Enjoying your Prowess and Sexual Sadism.' I taught this workshop at DomCon in Los Angeles and it was a wonderful turn out with over 75 in attendance. If you ever wanted to learn more about the psychological aspects of the practice of consensual Sadism and pressing the bounderies, this is the workshop for you. LIMITED reservations, so act soon. I accept paypal and MO.
Class Donation: $35/person. This includes a gourmet tapas dinner, discussion, and socializing afterwards.

THANKSGIVING: THURSDAY November 26th. This has been a yearly event I used to do in Baltimore and Orlando, and am finally getting around to starting it up again. 'Thanksgiving Dinner for Wayward Slaves'. If you are a slave boy or girl who has no place to spend the Thanksgiving Holiday, or just want to spend it with Mistress, then I would love to have you at The House. I'll be serving Thanksgiving Dinner, 'Southern Style' with ALL of the trimmings: Turkey, smashed potatoes, candied maple yams, sausage stuffing, fried apples, vegetables, pumpkin and apple pies, and more. (and if there's some lonely Dominants out there too you're welcome to attend..;) ) We will also be doing a mini discussion after we're all stuffed about tips on how to better yourself as a slave for your Owner, and a question and answer time to ask anything you'd like with Mistress. Studio Donation: $35/person. This is also limited space availability so act soon.

4) I will be staying in town for the Christmas and New Years as well, so sessions and B & B stays can be booked as usual. I usually only need a few hours notice for a personal session. B & B stays a few days before or as soon as you know your vacation travel plans is optimal.

5) PLAN YOUR CATERED HOLIDAY PARTIES NOW! Why not have Chef Dominatrix 'whip' up something tasty for you? The Segreto *affordably* caters your event your unique style. All inclusive packages are listed on the Studio/B & B site, or have a menu planned personally for your specific tastes and needs. Specialty Couture Cakes too for those extra special gtg's, Dungeon parties, or nights in with that special someone(s) ;) Catering available for large parties up to 75 in Northeastern PA, with deliveries to Baltimore/DC, and to South Jersey & Manhattan. Delivery donation is extra. All recipes are uniquely created and prepared by Headmistress.

6. GUEST MISTRESSES: Don't forget you can tour here (or just party here!) For a layout of visiting packages available, visit the Studio site blog at www.womenofdiscipline.com . Put The respected 'Women of Discipline' Logo on your Domination resume and site.

COMING SOON:

Here are some events that are in the works. Your input is always appreciated for ideas too!

Join My yahoo group for up to date announcements and follow Me on Twitter: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/thewhipgirl and www.twitter.com/whipgirl

-Spanking Affectionado Social (OTK, Domestic Discipline, Disciplinarian)

-Adult Baby Night- with Auntie Vendela. Feeding, babysitting, and adult baby activities--with a strict overture!

-Foot, Shoe Boot Night: Get that tongue ready to be used!

-Sissy Maid Manners Class: With Mistress. We'll be learning the 3 'P's Ladies: Prim, Proper, and Pristine'. All orientations welcome, and all will be sissified.

-Ladies Tea: Dominant Women Only: (pre op Ladies are welcome) Ladies time to talk dirt about the boys, how to better put them in their place..AND keep them there.

Thank you for your attention and support. Stay tuned for more exciting things from The Studio and The B & B. It is My pleasure giving back to My Kink Community and providing a safe, clean, and positive environment for those of us who enjoy and live the BDSM (and forms of it) lifestyle.

In a nutshell:
1. Paypal and MO are accepted for donations. Inquire with the event for info via email at whipgirl@peoplepc.com
2. Book in ADVANCE if at all possible. Activities get filled. Don't miss out.
3. NO refund on donations for events unless Mistress has to cancel.

Questions? Please ask!

See you soon!

SINcerely,
Domina Vendela Zane
The WhipGirl (c)
Doctor of Kink, Madame Chef Erotique, Dominatrix
Women of Discipline Studios and The Segreto Dello Zane BDSM B & B
Your Alternative, Interationally Recognized Escape (via Marquis Magazine--online)
Scranton, PA USA
24/7 toll free recorded info: 888.274.4909
Studio: 570.335.5258
www.whipgirl.com
www.womenofdiscipline.com
and MORE from the above.

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Sunday, October 11, 2009

B & B/Mistress' Wish List

If you'd like to contribute to the B & B or would like to spoil Moi, I now have
a Wish List on Amazon.

www.amazon.com and search w/ My email addy: whipgirl@peoplepc.com

xoxo
Mistress

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Nightflirt screw ups-Please READ

Starting Tuesday Oct 13th 09, I will be available for live phone discipline regularily from 10am to 1pm M-F, EST. I will announce via TWITTER www.twitter.com/whipgirl other times as they arise. Call for your dose of lunchtime humiliation and discipline. Call 1-800-TO-FLIRT Extention: 0508780. Right now the call buttons on My sites aren't working due Nightflirt's change over to BETA. They'll be back. My recordings got deleted as well with the change. It'll take Me some time to re record. Bookmark My Nightflirt profile too! www.nightflirt.com/vendelazane

Thanks!
xoxo
Mistress

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Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Tips on Making a 24/7 slave relationship work

An Essay
(c) Women of Discipline Studios, Scranton, PA USA
By Domina Vendela Zane

Greetings all,

Over the years I have been lucky enough to have long term 24/7 relationships/ownerships with some wonderful full time lifestyle slaves.

When I first got into the scene and all was pounded with all of it's terms, I found it confusing. 'Lifestyle, Professional, 24/7, slave, submissive, boy, boi,' etc. I wanted to just figure out My main interests and how to define Myself TO Myself. A part of the scene I enjoyed so much was I didn't have to define Myself like people do in the 'Vanilla World'. I just wanted to be Me and learn about what interested Me.

Long term slave ownership excited Me. It brought Me back to the old South days when everything was a little slower, laid back, and I adore Southern mannerisms and hospitality. Granted as we all know some of the slaves back in that era (and I refer to slaves of any race, as non-consensual slavery was not limited to blacks, jews were the first slaves) were held against their will, yet many enjoyed their status, were gratefully loyal and lived a full life.

My 'today's version' definition of 'slave': A person who has consensually given their mind, body, heart, and trust to the hands of another. The slave has vowed loyalty to their owner by giving up their personal rights, freedoms and putting the needs and wants of their Owner before theirs. A slave gains satisfaction from servitude, and providing happiness and contentment to their Owner unselfishly.

Simple terms:
Owner-Owns a slave, a slave is considered physical property.
slave-Serves the Owner, relinquishes all rights and personal freedoms.
Dominant: Exercises physical/psychological power and control over the submissive.
submissive: passively serves the Dominant, and has minimal personal rights.
boy: (male)-Passively playful to the 'Mommy, Daddy'. They have a choice and input concerning their servitude limits.
boi: (primarily female masculine OR given to a male to define girly or queer males)-Passively playful to the 'Mommy, Daddy'. They have a choice and input concerning their servitude limits.

*It truly takes a very special kind of person to be a slave. It's not for everybody.

Ahh yes, times were 'easier' back then. slaves worked at the house, prepared meals, did chores, etc. Now these days, many slaves hold full time jobs, go to school to better themselves for their owners, and have children. The duties have changed. These I call it 'Outside World' responsibilities and they can definately put a damper on a 24/7 relationship. We're just busier. Many Owners have the same responsibilities too. Whew!

Here's a few general tips to go on if you're in or considering the responsibility of a 24/7 slave-Owner relationship:

(these aren't in any particular order, all are important)

1. Seperate fantasy from reality. While yes, those books and films we've seen and read seem like getting your cake and eating it too--life doesn't happen like the flims and books. Remember the GREAT thing about fantasy is that it's controlled by YOU. YOU can make it anyway you want at any time and nothing could go wrong or be uncomfortable. When real people and real life come in to the picture, things may happen that aren't predictable nor pleasurable at times. Keep the fantasies yours and enjoy them seperately from your real life relationship.

2. Realize that a 24/7 slave/Owner relationship is MORE responsibility that having a regular dating or friendship relationship. It's a LOT of work, communication, and growth together because there is more at stake. I could compare it to having a twin. If chemistry is right and communication is constant and open, needs and wants can be executed automatically and flow with ease.

3. Don't take each other for granted. The Owner must realize that if it wasn't for the slave's servitude and loyalty, we wouldn't be able to return to the slave proper discipline and guidance. The slave must realize quality servitude, no insubordination, and a positive attitude only motivates the Dominant to fulfill the slave's needs and desires, which in tune...makes the Dominant happier because they are expressing their Power. I say, when you make Me happy, I make you happier. It's a constant energy circle.

4. If you don't have time, MAKE it. Even the simplest things can be just as important than long playtimes and ceremonies.
I enjoy the idea of setting up an altar type table/place. Leave a note for your Owner telling Her/him to have a good day if you won't see each other. This idea is even nice for non-live ins. Make this place a place for the both of you to communicate with each other daily. These days text messages and emails work too. It just takes a few minutes to show your gratitude for each other.

5. If there are disagreements (and there will be as in any relationship) nip it in the butt immediately. Don't dwell on it and let it snowball. Both sides need to feel comfortable enough to maturely confront the other and talk about it. It may not be something you want to hear..but each side needs to listen, hear the issue, and work towards an amicable solution. Particular situations may take more time and attention than others, but getting over it and coming to an agreement makes your relationship stronger. Remember. mouth shut, ears open. It'll be your turn to talk soon.

6. Be honest with your Dominance and servitude. Don't 'kiss ass' to your owner because you want playtime this weekend, then you end up slacking the week after, after your wants were fulfilled. If you're going to serve another, don't do it half assed. A good Owner will recognize it anyway and most likely dismiss you. REMEMBER, as a slave, your needs and wants come LAST.

7. As an Owner AND as a slave: Don't say you're going to do something then don't follow through. Exceptions: So you had to cancel playtime because you're sick or the car broke down, or slave has to work late....these WILL come into play sometime. Both need to realize life may get in the way at times. There will be disappointment to both sides when it does happen, but think of how much sweeter the next time will be when both parties are more relaxed, rested, and ready.

8. Do vanilla things?! Yes yes....get out there and go to the park or a museum. Do other things that interest the both of you and grow together.

9. slaves, remember your place. If you've made the choice to become owned, it's a big step. you must remember that your Owner's word is law. Remember why you are there if there is discomfort. You are there because you were chosen. Insubordination will not be tolerated.

10. The fine line: as a slave and Owner please take note of signs of possible 'abuse of power'. Know when a relationship may be becoming physically and/or emotionally abusive. I just got out of a 'boifriend'/slave type relationship that turned ugly. he grew to be very controllling over Me, wanted to know about My personal family issues, stalked all of My sites in a bad way, and constantly accused Me of lying about I don't even know what...it was getting ugly and uncomfortable. I was very unhappy months before but just ignored it. I knew it was going nowhere and coming to an end . These relationships carry a LOT of emotion. Know when to say when and get the negativity out of your life and choose the positive route for your well being.

I hope these tips help determine (and help manage) whether or not an Owner/slave type relationship is for you.

If there's questions, shoot. I'll help you out if I can.

Sincerely,

Domina Vendela Zane
The WhipGirl (c)
Women of Discipline Studios and The Segreto Dello Zane BDSM B & B
Scranton, PA USA
www.whipgirl.com
www.womenofdiscipline.com

Myself and the Studio's debauchery on Twitter: www.twitter.com/whipgirl

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